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Your Wired but Tired Reset is on its way to your inbox right now — but you don't have to wait. Here it is:

Take the 60-second check-in

No two midlife brains do "wired but tired" the same way. Take 60 seconds to find your pattern — because knowing which version is yours means you start with the one or two things most likely to help you, instead of trying everything at once at 3 a.m.

Answer honestly. There's no wrong answer, and you might be a mix — that's normal. Just pick the one that sounds most like your nights lately.

1. When you're lying awake, what's loudest?

  • A. My mind. The thoughts won't stop — lists, worries, replays, tomorrow.
  • B. My body. Heart going, warm or clammy, restless, a buzzy "on" feeling I can't switch off.
  • C. Nothing in particular — I just wake up, fully alert, usually around the same time, for no clear reason.

2. When does it tend to hit?

  • A. Falling asleep is the hard part, or I wake and then the thinking starts.
  • B. It's more about how my body feels — often earlier in the night, or with heat/waking warm.
  • C. Almost always 2, 3, or 4 a.m., like clockwork — wide awake, then can't get back down.

3. What have you noticed most in the last year?

  • A. I feel more mentally "switched on" and harder to wind down than I used to.
  • B. I feel more physically reactive — to stress, heat, alcohol, a late night — than I used to.
  • C. My sleep used to be reliable and now it just… isn't, and I can't point to why.

4. What tends to help you settle back down, even a little?

  • A. Getting the thoughts out of my head — writing them down, or just working through them until they quiet.
  • B. Cooling off or resetting physically — kicking off the blanket, a cool drink, changing position.
  • C. Nothing in particular — I just eventually drift off again, usually without knowing why.

5. How would you describe your energy the next day?

  • A. Foggy and slow to start, like my brain never fully switched off overnight.
  • B. Physically drained, like my body did something all night even though I didn't move.
  • C. Fine for most of the day, then I dread bedtime because I don't know if tonight will be another one.

Mostly A → you're a Racing Mind.

Mostly B → you're a Wired Body.

Mostly C → you're a 3 a.m. Waker.

A tie or a mix → read the pattern you scored highest, then borrow from the other. Most women are a blend, and the card works for all three.

Your pattern

The Racing Mind

This is you if: the lights are off but your brain didn't get the memo. The moment it's quiet, the thinking starts — the unanswered message, the thing you said wrong, tomorrow's list.

What's likely going on: in perimenopause, progesterone is usually the first hormone to decline — and progesterone supports GABA, your brain's main calming signal. With less of that calming tone, the brain stays in problem-solving mode when it should be powering down.

Start with Card tips 1, 2, 5, and 8 — and the Audio, whenever you're lying there awake.

The Wired Body

This is you if: it's less about your thoughts and more about your body — heart going, warm or clammy, a restless, buzzy, "on" feeling that won't settle.

What's likely going on: estrogen helps regulate your body's temperature comfort zone and stress response. As it fluctuates, small shifts in body temperature that you'd never have noticed before can now nudge you awake.

Start with Card tips 3, 4, and 6 — and the Audio, whenever you're lying there awake.

The 3 a.m. Waker

This is you if: you don't necessarily struggle to fall asleep — but like clockwork, you snap awake at 2, 3, or 4 a.m., fully alert, and can't work out why.

What's likely going on: cortisol, your body's natural wake-up signal, begins rising in the early hours. With less of progesterone's calming buffer, that normal rise can be enough to tip you all the way awake instead of letting you sleep through it.

Start with Card tips 6 and 7 — and the Audio, whenever you're lying there awake.

Your one-page Reset Card

The practical part, on a single page you can print and keep by the bed. A small number of evidence-informed things to try tonight — with the why attached to each. Start with the tips your pattern points you to above.

Save tonight's audio

For the moment you actually need it. When you wake in the night and feel your mind starting to race, press play — no trying to meditate perfectly, no remembering anything. Save it to your phone now, while you're thinking of it, so it's ready tonight.

Maya is an AI brain-health educator. This is neuroscience education, not medical advice.

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